The first swinger meeting as a couple.

You have done your homework and selected a couple or single to meet.

The first thing you should do is chose a public place to meet. 

Most swingers meet for dinner and drinks or sometimes just drinks.

Any restaurant, bar or night club will be a good place.

You could meet at a swingers club, but I recommend an off premise swingers club for a first meeting.
Off premises means that sex does NOT occur at the swingers club.

Meeting another swinger couple or single is exciting.

Swinging is couple dating without all the negatives and so many positives.

1.  Going home alone
In regular dating, if things don't go well, then you will be going home alone.  Not in swinging.  As a swinging couple, you never go home alone.  You always have your partner.

2. Deciding whether to talk about sex
In regular dating, sex is rarely talked about on a first date or at all.  In swinging, couples talk freely with other swinging couples about their likes and dislikes.  It is actually expected that you talk about sex.

The positives of couple dating

1.  You and your partner are doing something together and it is fun.  Too many couples spend all their free time without their partner.  You know what I am talking about.  The girls night out and the guys not out dates.  Many couples cannot tell you the last time they went out together and ENJOYED IT.  Yes, they go out together for dinner and maybe a movie, but spend the time talking about the kids, house, job issues etc.  It is necessary communication, but what happened to talking about your dreams, wishes and fantasies.  Meeting another swinging couple allows you to explore your fantasies and that has to be more fun than talking about fixing the car, getting a new job or cleaning the house.
 
2.  It is fun to get all dressed up.  It feels like you are getting ready to go on a date.  The flirting will be there.  The conversation will be a little sexier than normal as you discuss swinging and your sexual preferences. Sometimes couples get so busy they don't have the time to look their best.  This can make it even more exciting as your partner makes the effort to look sexually appealing.  It can cause you to reminisce about what brought the two of you together.  Maybe you love her long legs.  That short skirt she just bought makes you want her even more.  He buys a new cologne and it smells really good.
The point is you and your partner are making an effort to look and feel sexy.  New underwear- if a thong can be called underwear.  Sexy bras and new clothes that accentuate your best features.

3.  You have no pressure to do anything but talk, unless all of you decide it should go further.