Why try swinging?
The obvious reason to try swinging is to fulfill your fantasies of having sex with other people. Everyone knows that.
For some, that is the only reason they want to try swinging. If this is your only reason, then swinging is for you.
If there are underlying reasons you wish to try swinging, then swinging may or may not be for you. You will have to decide.
My theory on this is that a couple should be happy with their relationship between them as a couple before trying swinging. Of course, these are ideal circumstances and nothing is perfect.
Some underlying reasons of why people swing.
These items are generally okay reasons for why you want to swing.
- You want to try bisexuality. If you are part of a male/female couple, then you have to bring in another person of the same sex to fulfull your bisexual fantasies.
- You both have a desire to fulfill each others fantasies which require more than you and your partner to fulfill.
- You want to experience sex with other races or ethnicities, commonly called interracial sex.
These next few items could be a concern for why you want to swing.
- Sex drives differ between husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend. This is very common for couples to have differing sex drives. Believe it or not, there are plenty of men out there that don't like sex as often as their female partner and vice versa. It is near impossible for a couple to have equal sex drives.
- You have fantasies that your partner is not willing to fulfill.
Different sex drives is always a factor. I believe that a couple should work together to try to satisfy each others sexual needs. However, sometimes swinging is a good alternative. You just have to be careful that swinging does not replace the sexual relationship between you and your partner. You must keep the communication lines open between you and your partner. If at any time swinging is interfering with you and your partners relationship in a negative way, then it is time to stop swinging.
Swinging can be great to allow your partner to fulfill those fantasies you are just not into fulfilling. For example, anal sex might be a real turn off for you, but your partner really wants to try it. Well, there are plenty of swingers out there who might give your partner the chance to try anal sex. Just make sure that you and your partner agree that swinging might be a good way to fulfill these type of fantasies. If one of you is not sure, then you need to do some more talking. Both of you should feel comfortable swinging and both of you should get something positive out of it.
Some reasons for why you want to swing to watch out for:
Please note: These are not common reasons. Swingers who swing for these reasons usually are not very successful swingers as other swingers are not interested in meeting these types of swingers. They are considered swingers with issues and avoided.
- To fix your relationship. Swinging should not be used to fix a bad relationship. Although swinging might make a bad relationship more tolerable, you and your partner should try to fix whatever underlying problems you have in your relationship.
- To find a new parter. Swinging is NEVER about replacing a current partner. If you are using swinging to meet potential partners to replace your current partner, then you are definately swinging for the wrong reasons.
It can be hard to tell WHY a person or partner would like to try swinging.
Fortunately, you have a variety of resources out there to help you figure it out. The internet is one of the best tools to learn about swinging and decide if it is right for you and your partner. Check out our article on
Thinking About Trying Swinging.
One of the easiest and quickest ways to get to the bottom of WHY is to sign up to a
swingers website and take it slow.